6 ways to make friends now you're grown up

Brutal truth? Making friends isn’t easy for grown-ups.

So how do you go about meeting new people when your Pokémon days are done?

Use a dating app

Sure, dating apps coyly say they’re a new way of socialising. But most of Tinder’s 20 billion plus matches, aren’t really looking for buddies in the friend-zone. So beware. If ‘just friends’ is what you’re after, and you don’t lie about it on your profile; you might want to hang back on ordering up BFF mugs.

Learn a language

Okay, it doesn’t need to be a language, it can be anything, as long as it involves a class, and other people. Friends aren’t guaranteed, but at least you might learn something useful.

Get a dog

Take a hound-less stroll round the park, and check out the bonding dog owners. Yes, pets are the perfect wingmen in the quest for friends. Just beware, dog owners can spot a phoney a mile off. So only go for this option if you want a dog as much as you want to meet new people.

Meet the neighbours

What could be easier right? And there’s every chance the downstairs’ neighbour with the Norwegian death metal fetish is into Scandi-chic too. Or not. Before you go round with a basket of freshly baked muffins, think carefully: the only way to get out of this new ‘friendship’ might involve moving house.

Find a group activity

Shared interests are a lot less responsibility than a dog, and groups avoid those awkward, ‘just you, me, and a big silence’, moments. Use Pal to find tons of people locally, who like the same things you like and are planning anything from going for a run, dog-walking or just meeting for a cup of coffee. Or just go for it, post your own activity and let others join you.

Use your kids

You feed them, you clothe them, you catch all their colds, the least they can do is help out from time to time. If you don’t have kids already, skip this: it’s not like the dog-walking option. But, if you’re lucky enough to have one or more playful under fives to hand; head to the park, let them loose, and it’s almost 100% guaranteed they’ll find friends, then all you have to do is find the appropriate parent and make friends too.